In these days of insular living, peoples self esteem is at a record low. 95% of people I do readings for have low self esteem. That's not saying people with low self esteem are the only ones who get readings! Look at famous people. They often don't believe they are beautiful, or sexy. It afflicts us all. With all the media saying we are supposed to look a certain way that realistically only about 2% of the worlds population stands up to (and they find flaws in themselves as well) is it any wonder we're having a hard time on this subject?
So are we to believe the distorted belief that if we're not "perfect" we're nothing? The only female I know of who does meet the criteria is Barbie. So the entire human race is supposed to aspire to a plastic artificial doll? I don't think so.
Accept the fact that we are humans. We have frailties and problems yes. But we also have wondrous possibilities, a wealth of creativity, beauty, kindness, compassion, and too many other good points to list. Oh, don't think that I am speaking of the human race as a whole. I was speaking of YOU and me. YOU have creativity, beauty, compassion, and an amazing potential. No the thing is to get you to believe it.
Regaining our self esteem (well have you ever seen a baby with low self esteem?) isn't easy, and it will take time. Like all things worth having.
I've created a 3 step plan for self esteem. It's helped me enormously, as years ago I felt I was ugly and stupid and no one would want me. Sound familiar? Since then I've told several people about it, and those that applied it always said it worked. Those that didn't stayed where they are. But you have to be diligent with it. If you do exactly as is told, you can expect some results within a couple of weeks.
Firstly I must say that in my opinion self esteem is NOT egotism! Egotism is where you think you're better than everyone else. Well, kiddo, I got news for ya, you're NOT. No one is better than everyone else. Everyone on this planet is equal. The thing is, good self esteem means we realize we are worthy of being equal, no matter who with, be they politicians, movie stars, or criminals. If you don't believe that, then you've other work to do on yourself that this page won't help with. Low self esteem is where you think you're not as good as anyone else. Below are the steps that will hopefully teach you that is a fallacy.
Ok, lets get started.........
What you have to do before the 3 steps
is face the fact that self pity can be addictive. "Oh god, my life is hell...I'm
stupid (or overweight or ugly or plain or have large thighs or whatever)
and I feel so bad..." Trying for pity both from our self
and others can be a way to get through life, but it's not a good one.
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1. STOP criticizing yourself. Stop putting yourself down, especially in front of others. We are often harshest on ourselves, much harsher than others are on us. So stop it right now! No putting yourself down, even if it's in a joking way! 2. Get an A4 sheet of paper and write down everything good about you. EVERYTHING you can think of. It could be that you have nice eyes, or long fingers, or you have a sense of style, or help out at a community centre, or even that you can see, or read, or have arms and legs. It is to be everything good. No matter how basic. Get more paper if you need to and then, when you've finished, put it next to your bed, and read it every day. Twice a day is better. Read it out loud, and focus on these great points you have. 3. Now don't laugh at this, the last point. It may sound ridiculous, but it works! Every day if possible, find a mirror. The larger the better. Go into a room where you're totally alone. Look into the mirror, and say the words "I am beautiful, I am worthy of love, I am intelligent, I am a wonderful person." Repeat it until you can say it slowly and mean it (and with a straight face) at least 5 times. |
If you do these things seriously, every day, and keep at it, within a couple of weeks your self esteem will start to grow wonderfully.
Let me know how you go!
Love and Light,
Ozq
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